Managing director of adult entertainment firm Easy on the Eye, and female porn film director for over 12 years.
Apart from size, what other elements is pleasure a function of?
Pleasure comes from the understanding that sex is different from
other things in life; it is a game with its own rules. Of course, respect and consent are key, but after that all else is about pleasure. For instance, dominatrixes' dungeons are full of professional men who are very demanding in the rest of their lives/jobs. Yet they pay large amounts to be spanked and spoken down to. Sex often acts as a counterbalance to the stresses and expectations of the rest of life. Don't engage the head (or the morals) too much. It follows that what happens in the bedroom stays there too.
Does porn serve to raise expectations and thus leads to increased feelings of inadequacies inside the bedroom?
Only if people already think negatively about porn, but those people will always be looking for reasons to add to their list of negative beliefs about the industry. It is unfair to blame the industry for raising expectations when other forms of film are not blamed in the same way. Imagine complaining to comedians that they set an example of life that is far funnier than reality, and thus we are all depressed with our real lives as a result. Porn directors don't prefer to show real sex, we show sexual entertainment. I think porn also does a good thing if it causes people to ask questions about how fulfilling their sex lives are, to a point. Why not try something new? The biggest killers of relationships are boredom and over-familiarity, not overactive sexual imaginations.
Anna Arrowsmith’s tips to enhance pleasure between the sheets...
My only tip would be to assume that your partner has more pent up sexual desires than polite society lets them voice (after all, don't you?). Sex becomes alive after this threshold has been surpassed. The trouble is, even in a world where sexual pleasure is being spoken about more and more, it can still be very difficult to overcome embarrassment and fear in your own relationship. Communication is key, as is having an open mind whilst respecting both yourself and your partner. In my experience too, women have a wider (and often more politically incorrect!) set of fantasies than men.
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Apart from size, what other elements is pleasure a function of?
Pleasure comes from the understanding that sex is different from
other things in life; it is a game with its own rules. Of course, respect and consent are key, but after that all else is about pleasure. For instance, dominatrixes' dungeons are full of professional men who are very demanding in the rest of their lives/jobs. Yet they pay large amounts to be spanked and spoken down to. Sex often acts as a counterbalance to the stresses and expectations of the rest of life. Don't engage the head (or the morals) too much. It follows that what happens in the bedroom stays there too.Does porn serve to raise expectations and thus leads to increased feelings of inadequacies inside the bedroom?
Only if people already think negatively about porn, but those people will always be looking for reasons to add to their list of negative beliefs about the industry. It is unfair to blame the industry for raising expectations when other forms of film are not blamed in the same way. Imagine complaining to comedians that they set an example of life that is far funnier than reality, and thus we are all depressed with our real lives as a result. Porn directors don't prefer to show real sex, we show sexual entertainment. I think porn also does a good thing if it causes people to ask questions about how fulfilling their sex lives are, to a point. Why not try something new? The biggest killers of relationships are boredom and over-familiarity, not overactive sexual imaginations.
Anna Arrowsmith’s tips to enhance pleasure between the sheets...
My only tip would be to assume that your partner has more pent up sexual desires than polite society lets them voice (after all, don't you?). Sex becomes alive after this threshold has been surpassed. The trouble is, even in a world where sexual pleasure is being spoken about more and more, it can still be very difficult to overcome embarrassment and fear in your own relationship. Communication is key, as is having an open mind whilst respecting both yourself and your partner. In my experience too, women have a wider (and often more politically incorrect!) set of fantasies than men.
For More IIPM Info, Visit below mentioned IIPM articles.
IIPM ranks No 1 in International Exposure in the 'Third Mail Today B-School Survey'
Management Guru Arindam Chaudhuri Dean Business School IIPM
IIPM Excom Prof Rajita Chaudhuri
Kapil Sibal’s voters want Jan Lokpal, not Government-proposed Lokpal Bill
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"Thorns to Competition" amongst the top 10 best sellers of the week.
IIPM RANKED NO.1 in MAIL TODAY B-SCHOOL RANKINGS
'Thorns to Competition' - You can order your copy online from here
IIPM Mumbai Campus
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